Cathy Heenan, Ed.D. recently posted an article in her
blog that introduces a model you can use with your spouse when emotions are running high and you need to be able to solve a dispute.
Here's what you need to do:
- If you can agree with what is being said, simply say..."I agree."
- If you agree with part of what is being said, begin with, "I agree with [the part you in fact agree with]. I do have trouble with [the part you don't agree with]."
Try out this model and see if it helps you to reach some agreement at a time when it is so important to do so.
