In this recent article, Dr. Pauline Boss describes an alternative to ending a relationship because it’s not everything we wish for. She describes this as making a "conscious choice". In all intimate relationships, there will be aspects of the other partner than are less than stellar. Yet, with the knowledge that no one is perfect and in the hope that one's marriage vows have some lasting meaning, the thing to do is to give careful consideration to the perceived failings of your partner and decide if, in fact, he or she is 'good enough". If so, perhaps acceptance rather than divorce is your answer. If he or she is not "good enough" then plan your separation and divorce with the help of trained professionals. Just know, you do have a choice.